You've already taken the first steps. You've determined there is something about yourself you dislike. You've decided you'd like to change that something. Now you are trying to come up with a way or ways to change that something. For even getting that far I am proud of you. Doing even that is more than most people are willing to do. I live with Jason. He has had to change several things about himself over the last ten years as have I so I can understand how hard changing can be.
John is putting Adam and Steve in a terrible posistion to have to choose between two friends. He is being immature and selfish but we've already determined that. You have done nothing wrong. Everyone thinks about themselves on occation, some more than others. It is human nature to be most interested in yourself. I know I am more interested in me than anyone else I know, lol. The trick is not doing so all the time. You've already learned this. A good example is the fact that you love Lexy. You care enough about another person, i. e. her, to marry her, charish her, and spend the rest of your lives together. That is saying something.
Anger is a natural responce to any negative situation and I feel that these recently past situations merit a bit of anger, saddness, and other negative feelings. If you hadn't felt these things I'd have to ask why. Venting is a good thing. If you don't vent your frustrations they'll build and you'll blow up. The next thing you need to do is ask yourself is John worth spending anymore of your precious energy on? Quit worrying about him and concentrate on the people who actually care about you. Think about those who have been there for you through this mire. Above all now that you've had all those negative feelings you need to start replacing them with positive ones. You need to go out and make new, happy memories with different people who have nothing to do with John. This should be the happiest time of your life! You're going to get married to a great woman who loves you. Don't let a petty nobody like John ruin that for you.
Here is one last thing sweety... Have a great day. Life is what you make it so have a great day. I hope this helps a little. Remember that I am always here if you and/or Lecy ever need someone to talk to, hang out with, or whatever.
Zan
· 2 years ago
I think that's a very good reply. I have nothing more to add.
Lacey
· 2 years ago
I also think it is a very good reply--Thanks Becca!!
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John is putting Adam and Steve in a terrible posistion to have to choose between two friends. He is being immature and selfish but we've already determined that. You have done nothing wrong. Everyone thinks about themselves on occation, some more than others. It is human nature to be most interested in yourself. I know I am more interested in me than anyone else I know, lol. The trick is not doing so all the time. You've already learned this. A good example is the fact that you love Lexy. You care enough about another person, i. e. her, to marry her, charish her, and spend the rest of your lives together. That is saying something.
Anger is a natural responce to any negative situation and I feel that these recently past situations merit a bit of anger, saddness, and other negative feelings. If you hadn't felt these things I'd have to ask why. Venting is a good thing. If you don't vent your frustrations they'll build and you'll blow up. The next thing you need to do is ask yourself is John worth spending anymore of your precious energy on? Quit worrying about him and concentrate on the people who actually care about you. Think about those who have been there for you through this mire. Above all now that you've had all those negative feelings you need to start replacing them with positive ones. You need to go out and make new, happy memories with different people who have nothing to do with John. This should be the happiest time of your life! You're going to get married to a great woman who loves you. Don't let a petty nobody like John ruin that for you.
Here is one last thing sweety... Have a great day. Life is what you make it so have a great day. I hope this helps a little. Remember that I am always here if you and/or Lecy ever need someone to talk to, hang out with, or whatever.